Imagine stepping off a plane into a new world: different language, unfamiliar faces, and a culture that might be miles apart from what you know. It’s exciting, but it can also be overwhelming. For many international scholars, this is the reality of studying abroad. You are strong and adventurous, having taken a bold step to pursue education in a foreign land. But amidst the academic challenges and the thrill of a new city, there’s a lingering ache, a longing for the familiar — that’s homesickness. It’s the quiet voice that whispers memories of home-cooked meals, family gatherings, and the comforting rhythm of your hometown. You are not alone in this; homesickness is a companion to many who venture far from home and we talked about this in another post. In this article, we will walk with you through this emotional landscape, offering understanding, advice, and reassurance that this ache in your heart is both normal and surmountable.
What is the Main Cause of Homesickness?
Let’s unpack the emotional baggage of homesickness. It is often triggered by the absence of familiar social and environmental cues. It is a form of attachment, longing for family, friends, and the known comforts of home. The stress of adapting to a new culture, language, and academic expectations can exacerbate these feelings. Research by the American Psychological Association suggests that homesickness is closely related to pre-existing anxiety and depressive disorders, which can intensify when one is removed from their comfort zone. Understanding the root of your homesickness is the first step towards managing it effectively.
Is it OK to Cry When Homesick?
Let’s talk about the healing power of tears. Absolutely, it is OK to cry when you are homesick. Crying is a natural response to emotional stress and can be incredibly cathartic. It allows for the release of stress hormones and can promote mental clarity. Studies have shown that crying activates the body’s parasympathetic nervous system (PNS), which helps the body recover from stress and trauma. So, let yourself cry; it’s your body’s way of starting the healing process.
How Do I Stop Feeling Homesick?
Now once you cried your eyes out, let’s talk strategies for soothing the soul and finding comfort abroad. To combat homesickness, engage in familiar activities that bring you comfort, such as reading a beloved book or cooking a meal from home. Making new friends and exploring your new environment can also help you establish a new sense of ‘home.’ Regular communication with loved ones back home, through video calls or messages, can maintain your connection without making you feel stuck in the past. Mindfulness and meditation practices have been proven in numerous studies to reduce stress and promote mental well-being. For instance, a study published in the journal Psychological Science found that mindfulness meditation reduces emotional reactivity, helping individuals better manage stressors like homesickness.
Should I Go Home if I Feel Homesick?
To stay or not to stay, that’s the question. Deciding whether to go home when feeling homesick is a significant decision. Consider your emotional state, academic commitments, and long-term goals. If homesickness is affecting your health and academic performance, it may be beneficial to consult with a mental health professional or academic advisor. They can provide perspective and may suggest a short visit home, rather than a full return, as a way to recharge without derailing your studies.
How Long Does Homesickness Last Abroad?
It’s comforting to know, that homesickness is a temporary heartace. The duration of homesickness varies significantly among individuals. However, for most, it tends to decrease as they become more accustomed to their new environment. Research indicates that, for many students, intense homesickness typically subsides after the first semester as new routines are established and new friendships are formed. Remember, it is a transitional emotion, not a permanent state.
To sum up, always remember that homesickness is a natural, common experience for international students, but it doesn’t have to define your time abroad. Be patient with yourself, seek support when needed, and actively engage in self-care practices. You are a strong and brave enough to study and live abroad. With time, the unfamiliar will become familiar, and your new environment may even start to feel like a second home. Embrace the journey, for it is full of growth and incredible potential!
